This article highlights the main events that must take place in order for a man to affirm that he is married to a Bamendankwe woman. These include the various visits to the woman's family, the items to take along, the personalities that must be present or represented, the rights that have to be performed.
When a young man finds his missing rib in Bamendankwe, it becomes mandatory for him to go through the
right procedures that would lead to eventual marriage with the woman. Below are the steps involved.
Take your mother to the girl's family
The next thing to do is for you and your mother to go to the girl's family. You may take along some gifts if you want to but it is not really time for it yet. Your
mother's visit is to make known your marriage intentions to the girls family. Again the family could approve or disapprove the marriage proposal.
That was just the introduction of the marriage!
of money you have to pay as bride price. The money or items the girl's parents are receiving have to be
shared with the girls extended family. It is normal for the girls family to instead send you to these members of the extended family as well as they could decide to help you take care of that. The kind of items asked varies across families so there is no need to list them here.
To be continued...
When a young man finds his missing rib in Bamendankwe, it becomes mandatory for him to go through the
right procedures that would lead to eventual marriage with the woman. Below are the steps involved.
Tell your family about your wife to be
Take your mother to the girl's family
The next thing to do is for you and your mother to go to the girl's family. You may take along some gifts if you want to but it is not really time for it yet. Your
mother's visit is to make known your marriage intentions to the girls family. Again the family could approve or disapprove the marriage proposal.
Take palm wine to the girl's family
That was just the introduction of the marriage!
Yet another visit to the girl's family
of money you have to pay as bride price. The money or items the girl's parents are receiving have to be
shared with the girls extended family. It is normal for the girls family to instead send you to these members of the extended family as well as they could decide to help you take care of that. The kind of items asked varies across families so there is no need to list them here.
The marriage proper
To be continued...
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